Six Sure Ways to Start and Stay Motivated  

Can I be honest?  It’s hard even getting the strength up to be motivated in accomplishing a goal.  What is my motivation?  Why do I even want to achieve this?  It’s so much easier to be there for others, but what about being the very best for myself?  Ladies, if we give ourselves away to everyone else, who’s there for us while we’re pouring our souls out?

As little girls, we are taught, “Don’t be selfish…give.”  And we still hold to this model of behavior (to prove we’re not self-centered humans) to an exhausting demise.  I’ve learned to point the gun of this loaded charge back to my own life, by serving ME first.  No one can give their best to others while empty within.  Believe me, at the bottom of an empty cup of me, was liquid bitterness, resentment and just plain ole exhaustion.

When we pour into the lives of others from a fullness, the world is so much sweeter.  We truly reap what we sow, not only to others, but within ourselves too.  I had to shift the paradigm of how I valued myself, and prioritize daily commitments to my own care.  For example, I’m up at 3:30AM every morning for prayer, meditation and journaling.  I light my favorite white sage incense and use this time to tap into the power within.  My personal value increased and this became a wealth in not only flowing in self honor, but in honoring others as well.  Things I wanted to do before, yet struggled in, became easier; from losing weight, not being afraid in asking for more (more can be more money, time off, to asking a sales clerk for greater discounts), trying new adventurous things, and flourishing relationships.  I vibrated at a higher tone and attracted the very same into my life.  To help our Opulent Women, I’ve created my very personal tips on how to kindle and keep that fire of motivation gassed up and glowing!  

1.     Take complete ownership of where you want to go.  This is the very first step that’s not only critical for success, but powerful! Everything is energy, and movement is proof of life.  Moving into ownership has no room for excuses of any kind (this includes reasoning against your goals or even blaming your partner), because the results belong solely to you.  As soon as you find yourself blaming, complaining or making a statement trying to provide a reason for the lack…STOP.  Know results are the total sum of your efforts to achieving.

2.     Create a new ‘selfie’.  As you believe so you are.  No one can be what they cannot see themselves becoming or achieving. Tune into your self-talk.  Are you verbally abusive, conditional, or are you loving , appreciative and positive?  Imagine your self-talk was another form of you standing right before your eyes, would you even want to be around you based on what’s heard?  After dropping a glass to the floor one day, I heard myself say within…”You are so stupid.”  Wow!  I didn’t even like me, so how could I expect others to treat me with dignity?  Encourage yourself with new truth, and be your own best friend! Create affirmations:  “I love me”, “I can do this, just watch me”, “There’s nothing I cannot do once my mind is made up”, “I am strong, capable and resilient”.  Transform your self-portrait into one you want to be around.  

3.     Nurture your motivation with positive support.  For motivation longevity, this requires regular feedings of healthy support.  Try connecting with others who are positive, who can see your achieving great results. Life can come at you hard sometimes, and the infusion of energy from encouragement can help you stay focused and not give up when everything around you and in you screams the opposite.  Take this opportunity to join OWNetwork!  We’d love to have you.

4.     Know that persistence pays up.  Water hitting a rock will wear it down over time. Keep at your goals, no matter what.  Don’t allow any room for a retreat. Burn the bridges offering any chance of returning back to the land of familiar. Assess your environment and ensure it supports that new direction. For example, if your goal is to not eat potato chips every night, get them out of the house!  Take the potato chips to work and leave them in the employee break area for others to enjoy.

5.     Create weekly benchmarks.  How will you know you’ve reached your goals without a clear plan with signposts along the way?  No one wants to go for a vacation to nowhere.  See your new view so clear, that it’s like you’re already living it. How does it feel to have this new change in your life?  What are you doing different and new?  Relive these feelings throughout the day. This will add turbo fuel to your desire to win!

6.     Make your journey fun.  No one is inspired to do anything that’s perceived as mundane, draining or forced. Find ways to make your new goals exciting, and rewarding; while celebrating achievements along the way.  And don’t stop until you make yourself proud.

This article was written by Angela Hicks, “The Lifestyle Guru” .  Angela is a transformation coach, helping women around the world to clearly define their seemingly impossible goals and create a plan of action to live a life they love.  Click hereto invite her to speak at your organization or for information on private to group coaching sessions.

What’s Blocking My Success?

If you are not living the life daydreamed about, it’s probably attachments standing in your way. Every negative emotion is the result of one or more attachments. The simplicity of just letting go of them is the one way to free yourself and enjoy unlimited success.

Several attachments impede progress and success:

  1. The need to be comfortable is the greatest obstacle to success. It’s perfectly normal human nature to seek out comfort. There are few, if any, greater drives than the desire to be comfortable; yet success lies on the other side of comfort. Comfort comes from the familiar, but familiar never brings change.
  • Embrace discomfort. Honor the role of discomfort in your life to bring out the very things you hope for or desire.  Understand that your uncomfortable feelings mean you’re doing something new. New actions bring new results and the results might be exactly what you’re looking for.
  1. The need to be right is a close second. It’s human to be wrong about many things. However, if you feel the need to be correct, there’s no room for the truth. Instead of wanting to prove you are right, seek the truth. Spend time building a more accurate map of your world rather than trying to force your current map on reality. 
  2. Attachment to your identity is another obstacle. Do you see yourself as an ineloquent person? If so, you’ll never become a great orator. Do you believe you’re naturally a heavy person? A lean, healthy body will always be out of reach.
  •  It’s very challenging to create a reality that clashes with your identity. Why are you attached to your opinion of yourself? Let it go and see how great you can become. You have nothing to lose.
  1. Are you attached to your habits?  Life is the ultimate expression of our habits. Our lives get a little better or a little worse each day depending on the quality of the decision made. Over several years, your habits dictate the quality of your life. If you can’t give up your current habits, stuck exactly where one stands, one will remain.
  •  Many success experts believe that the development of new, effective habits is the cornerstone of success. Let go of old unbeneficial habits and make room for the new.
  • It might be necessary to develop habits like learning each day, networking, exercising, or reviewing your goals regularly to reach a new level of success.
  • Habits are another way we comfort ourselves. It’s uncomfortable to break old habits and to create new ones (let this feeling of being uncomfortable be a sign you are on the right track).
  1. Attachment to places and people can also limit success. Many of the best opportunities can be in other locations. Are you attached to your hometown, state, or even country? The world is a big place. The best opportunity for you might not be within 25 miles of your front door.  Can you imagine how different Oprah Winfrey’s life would have turned out if she would have stayed in that little town in Mississippi?  Would she have become the global icon she is today if not for removing herself from her land of familiar and what family knew best?
  • We often become attached to places because of the people there. It’s not easy to leave friends and family to attain success.
  • The people in our lives are also habits. Think of other successful people you know. Describe the people they spend time with on a regular basis. Compare that to the people in your social circle. Can you see a difference? Moving ahead often means letting go of certain people.

Attachment can be limiting. If success isn’t coming quickly enough, your attachments are part of the challenge. Examine your tendencies and determine which are impeding progress. Be willing to change and accept another viewpoint. Many attachments are pleasurable in the short-term, but painful in the long-term. Release them and enjoy greater unblocked success.

What do I want?

A simple yet powerful question I still to this day continue to ask myself, because as we mature and life continues to evolve, the answer grows.  For decades I lived my life by default, by accomplishing what I believed would appease others; until one day I had the epiphany of wondering what my life would look like if I tore everything down I had built for everyone else, and rebuild using my blueprint plans drawn from considering the desires of my own heart.  The first step to remodeling my life was to go to the Genesis — the beginning seeds or foundation that my life was built up on.  This took me on a journey remembering good, bad and ugly words sown into my life; that I took ownership of and nourished into healthy life sapping vines. 

I believe as babies we were so perfectly mindful of the ability to do it all, to actually live in a realm of “all things possible” without any judgment, condemnation or voices of the world to tell us ‘No you cannot do that.”  Think about all the wonderful miraculous achievements of a typical child within their first 3 years of life!  They fall down continuously (hard mind you) until walking is mastered; ignoring parents and well-meaning family to stay in a determined safe zone, only to reset their own mind to an awaiting adventure to fearlessly conquer.  This wonderful mindset is a fiercely dominant force until the child enters …. public school.  It’s in this environment where most are conditioned to a squishy softness to NOT do this or that, wear that, say that, look like that, feel like that or most importantly think freely.  The child’s complete strength of self is stripped and replaced with every colorful and uncoordinated attire from others desire for their life; resulting in completely forgetting just who they are and what it is I want out of this gift called life.  Dressed in the coat of many colors held together with patches of “You’re not good enough, skinny enough, smart enough, fast enough or pretty enough, we are then shoved out into the world at graduation and told to conquer it and be successful.

At the Genesis we are most likely to hear the “no you cannot” so much that we actually look for permission to live, move and have our being in our adult life.  “Who told you that you were naked?”  Those famous Words from the lips of God to Adam after the sinful fall (in the 3rd book of Genesis), reveals a powerful truth in just how deformed our lives can become from the words of another.  We lose touch with our very soul, that still small voice within, while the volume increases on every critic that’s crossed our life’s path.  I encourage you to get back in touch with your desire and longings.  These feelings are in you for a very good reason, so don’t dismiss them any longer.  Allow yourself the grace to explore them without further suppression by asking yourself “What do I want?” or “What would I love in my life?”

“The quality of our life is determined by the quality of the question we ask.”

Here’s a very simple way to get you started, and it does not matter what age this writing inspires you to take action.  There is no age cap for a life reinvented.  Grab a cup of coffee or tea, a notepad and pen, sit in a comfy chair (with a blanket if you’d like), take a deep breath, ask yourself these questions and then just listen.  Be and simply listen. Your soul that’s been stilled for so long will eventually speak.  Now when it does, don’t be scared of the enormity of the dream.  We can become sidetracked by comparing our past life experiences to the ability to see our Divine purpose into fruition.  Know that you are created to do exactly what life demands of you, and this life will never lie to you; as life seeks only for your good.  Your past, line of credit, skin color, sex, education, social status or lineage does not have the capacity to define the wealth of who you are, so don’t look to it for a definition–look within.

Share with us in the comments how you will create the life you’d love to live, and no longer live life by default!  

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