Six Sure Ways to Start and Stay Motivated  

Can I be honest?  It’s hard even getting the strength up to be motivated in accomplishing a goal.  What is my motivation?  Why do I even want to achieve this?  It’s so much easier to be there for others, but what about being the very best for myself?  Ladies, if we give ourselves away to everyone else, who’s there for us while we’re pouring our souls out?

As little girls, we are taught, “Don’t be selfish…give.”  And we still hold to this model of behavior (to prove we’re not self-centered humans) to an exhausting demise.  I’ve learned to point the gun of this loaded charge back to my own life, by serving ME first.  No one can give their best to others while empty within.  Believe me, at the bottom of an empty cup of me, was liquid bitterness, resentment and just plain ole exhaustion.

When we pour into the lives of others from a fullness, the world is so much sweeter.  We truly reap what we sow, not only to others, but within ourselves too.  I had to shift the paradigm of how I valued myself, and prioritize daily commitments to my own care.  For example, I’m up at 3:30AM every morning for prayer, meditation and journaling.  I light my favorite white sage incense and use this time to tap into the power within.  My personal value increased and this became a wealth in not only flowing in self honor, but in honoring others as well.  Things I wanted to do before, yet struggled in, became easier; from losing weight, not being afraid in asking for more (more can be more money, time off, to asking a sales clerk for greater discounts), trying new adventurous things, and flourishing relationships.  I vibrated at a higher tone and attracted the very same into my life.  To help our Opulent Women, I’ve created my very personal tips on how to kindle and keep that fire of motivation gassed up and glowing!  


1.     Take complete ownership of where you want to go.  This is the very first step that’s not only critical for success, but powerful! Everything is energy, and movement is proof of life.  Moving into ownership has no room for excuses of any kind (this includes reasoning against your goals or even blaming your partner), because the results belong solely to you.  As soon as you find yourself blaming, complaining or making a statement trying to provide a reason for the lack…STOP.  Know results are the total sum of your efforts to achieving.

2.     Create a new ‘selfie’.  As you believe so you are.  No one can be what they cannot see themselves becoming or achieving. Tune into your self-talk.  Are you verbally abusive, conditional, or are you loving , appreciative and positive?  Imagine your self-talk was another form of you standing right before your eyes, would you even want to be around you based on what’s heard?  After dropping a glass to the floor one day, I heard myself say within…”You are so stupid.”  Wow!  I didn’t even like me, so how could I expect others to treat me with dignity?  Encourage yourself with new truth, and be your own best friend! Create affirmations:  “I love me”, “I can do this, just watch me”, “There’s nothing I cannot do once my mind is made up”, “I am strong, capable and resilient”.  Transform your self-portrait into one you want to be around.  

3.     Nurture your motivation with positive support.  For motivation longevity, this requires regular feedings of healthy support.  Try connecting with others who are positive, who can see your achieving great results. Life can come at you hard sometimes, and the infusion of energy from encouragement can help you stay focused and not give up when everything around you and in you screams the opposite.  Take this opportunity to join OWNetwork!  We’d love to have you.

4.     Know that persistence pays up.  Water hitting a rock will wear it down over time. Keep at your goals, no matter what.  Don’t allow any room for a retreat. Burn the bridges offering any chance of returning back to the land of familiar. Assess your environment and ensure it supports that new direction. For example, if your goal is to not eat potato chips every night, get them out of the house!  Take the potato chips to work and leave them in the employee break area for others to enjoy.

5.     Create weekly benchmarks.  How will you know you’ve reached your goals without a clear plan with signposts along the way?  No one wants to go for a vacation to nowhere.  See your new view so clear, that it’s like you’re already living it. How does it feel to have this new change in your life?  What are you doing different and new?  Relive these feelings throughout the day. This will add turbo fuel to your desire to win!

6.     Make your journey fun.  No one is inspired to do anything that’s perceived as mundane, draining or forced. Find ways to make your new goals exciting, and rewarding; while celebrating achievements along the way.  And don’t stop until you make yourself proud.


This article was written by Angela Hicks, “The Lifestyle Guru” .  Angela is a transformation coach, helping women around the world to clearly define their seemingly impossible goals and create a plan of action to live a life they love.  Click hereto invite her to speak at your organization or for information on private to group coaching sessions.

Take Your Dream from Ethereal to Real in 9 Steps

Many entrepreneurs will tell you that ideas are the easy part — It’s the implementation that separates the successful from the unsuccessful. Turning an idea into reality is a skill that anyone can learn. Managing yourself and daily action are the most important factors.

What would you do if you knew failure wasn’t possible?

 

Follow these steps to create your own reality:

  1. Be clear regarding your objective. Are you clear about what you want? Success is much more likely if your objective is clear and precise. If you’re too vague, the problem-solving functions of the brain can become too confused to operate optimally. Write out what you desire to be, do and have in a journal and/or vision board.  
  2. List your resources. Be aware of all the tools you have at your disposal. You have more to work with than realized. Consider all the people you know that are capable of assisting you. List all of your resources that are relevant to your objective. Perhaps your car, computer, and local library are valuable tools.
  3. Consider the resources you’ll require. Make a list of everything you think you’ll need and compare that list to the list you made of your available resources. How will you make up the difference?

 Most importantly, ensure you have everything you need to get started. Avoid letting the future stop you from taking action today. If there’s something you’re lacking that you won’t need for six months, you can still get started!

  1. Maintain your awareness of your objective. Keep your objective in the front of your mind. The easiest way to do this is to think about it each day. A simple visualization session twice a day is sufficient. Just remind yourself on a daily basis that you have an idea that you want to bring into reality. 
  2. Avoid trying for perfection. Perhaps the biggest obstacle is the belief that success only comes from taking perfect action. This belief is enough to paralyze efforts. Consistent, steady action is enough to reach your goals. 
  3. Make a plan. Avoid waking up each day without a plan of attack. Know how you’re going to spend your day before you go to bed each night. A simple to-do list will guarantee that you can hit the ground running each day. 
  4. Work your plan. Knowing what to do is only half of the puzzle. It’s important to work your plan consistently. Everyone knows how to lose weight, yet there’s growing numbers of people considered obese. Focus on taking simple, effective actions day after day. Remember a river created the Grand Canyon, and your objective is just like that river flowing by consistent action. 
  5. Evaluate progress. Provide yourself with regular feedback. Determine a method of measuring progress and taking regular measurements. Assess if you’re on the right track. How can you enhance your results? Do you need to try another course of action?  Seek to improve your approach based on your evaluations.
  1. Keep going. If you keep working, measuring your progress, and developing an effective approach, how can you fail? You can only fail IF you give up. Enjoy and be proud of the progress you’re making each week. Know that your idea will become a reality.

Success isn’t complicated or only available to certain people. Success is the result of maintaining focus and taking appropriate action each day. If you don’t quit, failure isn’t an option. Nothing is more exciting than turning a dream into reality.

What life will you create for yourself starting right NOW?

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Feeling stuck or frustrated with life often precedes the decision to make a personal transformation. Making a meaningful change can be both exciting and distressing.  Our brains are wired to make change uncomfortable and more challenging than it needs to be. Focusing on the most important aspects of personal change can make the process smoother and easier. The odds of success are greatly enhanced, too.  We at Opulent Women’s Network desire that all our Queens live their very best possible life.  So we ask that you give yourself the grace of what you desire,  give it your best intentions, followed with unrelentless aggressive action.  We are here as a network to support you!

Include these essentials in your personal transformation process:

  1. Making a true decision might be the most powerful thing you can do. A true decision cuts off all other possibilities. Most of us fail to truly decide. We make weak resolutions and fail to stick with them with an aggressive plan of action. The constant vacillation between multiple options is worse than making no decision at all.

 Narrow down your options to just a couple of choices and then pick one. After the careful consideration you’ve done in the narrowing process, one choice is probably as good as another when you only have a couple of options left. Picking a sub optimal choice is also better than failing to make a choice. Use your gauge of peace to lead you in the right direction, for it never fails.

  1. Create a deadline. Have you ever noticed how projects expand to fill the allotted time? If your supervisor allotted two weeks for you to complete a project, would you be scrambling at the last minute to get it done?
  • Choose a deadline that’s reasonable, not too stressful for you, but still aggressive. You can get more accomplished than you realize.
  • The lack of a timetable ensures the transformation process will take much longer than necessary.
  1. Have an exciting vision. Ensure that you have a clear picture of how your personal transformation will positively impact your life. If that vision doesn’t fill you with excitement, you’re going to need a new vision for the future. Making a big change can be seen as challenging. Without a compelling expected future, it will be hard to persevere.
  2. Address your limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs don’t directly limit your ability to transform. However, they can severely limit your ability to take action. If you do not believe you can succeed, you’ll never complete the hard work required to see a transformation.
  • Make a list of all the beliefs you have about yourself and the world that could be limiting your progress. Address each of them one by one. Make a list of counterexamples to that belief. What is the disadvantage of continuing to accept that belief? What new belief could you install in its place?
  • It’s challenging to find and eliminate all the limiting beliefs you hold, but it CAN be achieved, and eliminating them guarantees your ultimate success.
  • Consider any experiences in your past that fill you with a sense of failure. These memories can often hold clues to limiting beliefs.
  1. Measure your progress. Any significant transformation will take time. Weight is lost a little at a time. Skills are gained over time. Develop a way to track your progress and review it regularly by scheduling the review. Seeing progress is motivating. It also lets you know where you stand, and can allow room to adjust towards the desired mark. Enjoy your results and permit it to increase your enthusiasm.

Making a successful personal transformation is one of the quickest ways to positively change your life.

Create a compelling future and be determined that you’ll reach it by your deadline. Work on your limiting beliefs. These lying beliefs are the greatest impediment to the ability to change. Finally, measure your progress along your journey. The feedback and motivation it provides are invaluable.

With today being Veterans Day, I thought about the word allegiance and what it means to not only country, but to the person giving it.  Allegiance is defined as “loyalty or commitment of a subordinate to a superior or of an individual to a group or cause”.  Allegiance is a position one places within a relational system; it lowers or obligates one’s stature under another.

Being a Life Coach, I pondered how after helping a Client see their participation in committing to their parental relationship, had hindered her progress in business.  Let me explain.  My Client, who’ll we’ll refer to as Barbara, could not understand what the hidden sabotages were in being a success in her field.  There would be times Life clearly showed her this was where she belonged and could thrive, yet in private there were struggles in not progressing forward with confidence; which left her frustrated, borderline depressed, ready to give up the business all together and return to a 9 to 5.

After a Coaching session, we uncovered her deep hidden belief in not feeling good enough in the eyes of her parents, had now become her adult truth.  This belief buried into her subconsciousness and guided every decision, in order to create the reality believed.  This false belief kept Barbara from manifesting the REAL truth, of her being fully capable in achieving the success desired.  No matter how painful familiar is, we can cling and duplicate it, recreating the very things that birth more misery. 

“Our current circumstances are the total sum of our beliefs.”

Only in self-development and asking ourselves empowering questions, can we better understand what the the driving force is behind what we do.  Barbara had committed or had given her allegiance over to how her parents perceived were her capabilities, and that allegiance could not split towards the success of a business led by herself.  Every visit home for the holidays to her family, and how she felt after leaving the negative environment, only reinforced this to be her truth.  Barbara had vested her worth through the eyes of her parents and how they treated her, instead of allowing her achievements to speak instead.

“If a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.”  (Mark 3:25)

Barbara could now see how this false belief affected her business, self-worth, relationships, finances and even her health; it manifested and weaved itself throughout her life.  Through Coaching, Barbara now has ability to treat the false belief and is now flourishing in her field. 

If you can relate to my Client Barbara, ask yourself where your buy-in on what’s possible for you lies.  Does your buy-in on what’s possible for you originate from yourself, or from an external person?  When one cannot move past certain things in their life, it’s vitally important to a Dream to have a Life Coach.  One cannot afford not to have a good Life Coach; which can save time, lost investment, increase self-value and confidence!  

Commit, pledge allegiance to a more Opulent Life, contact us by CLICKING HERE for a free 30 minute Life Coaching Session with Angela Hicks, “The Lifestyle Guru”, who has helped women all over the world create and NOW Live a Life they truly Love.

 

Angela Hicks, “The Lifestyle Guru”

Beliefs color our perception of the world and experiences. Many beliefs are true only because we believe them to be. If beliefs aren’t congruent with excelling in life and receiving abundance, it’s very unlikely you’ll ever live the life you deserve. When your results are falling short of your desires, your beliefs are the logical place to make a change.

Many of the beliefs held are strongly are inaccurate. Fundamental beliefs are formed at a young age. We often learn them from sources that aren’t operating at the expert level. It’s easy to see why we have beliefs that hold us back from experiencing all the abundance we deserve.

Choose a negative belief and begin the process of elimination:

  1. Challenge the belief. Suppose you held the belief that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. Where did the belief originate? What was the source? Did you read it or experience it first-hand? Was it something you learned from a parent, teacher, or peer?
  • Is the source reliable? Has this source been wrong about other things in the past? Is this person an expert regarding the belief? You wouldn’t take long-term relationship advice from someone that’s been divorced 5 times.
  • Do you have proof that your belief is accurate?
  • Could the opposite be true?
  • What if your belief is wrong? What would change?
  1. How has this belief limited or harmed you in the past? List all the times this belief has steered you in the wrong direction or stopped you from taking action. Visualize your past and re-experience the pain and disappointment this belief has created. Realize that releasing this belief is a positive and necessary step.
  2. Create a new belief that serves you. It’s not enough to let go of a belief. It’s important to replace it with a new perspective. What is a more useful alternative to your current belief? For the previous example, you might choose the belief, “Anyone can attract wealth and abundance.”
  • Make a list of alternative beliefs and choose the one that feels the most empowering.
  1. Search for evidence that your new belief is possible. Do you know any wealthy people that started with little money? Seek out examples of successful people that came from humble beginnings.
  • Have there been instances in the past you’ve proven your new, desirable belief correct?
  • Make a list of all the times you’ve been successful in congruence with your new belief.
  1. Get excited. Visualize yourself living your new belief. How would your life change? How would that make you feel? What would you accomplish? Stick with this process until you feel a high level of excitement and enthusiasm.

  2. Reinforce the new belief. Repeat your new belief to yourself 100 times each day. This will only take a few minutes. Make time in the morning and evening to complete this task.
  • Beliefs are most easily formed through strong emotional reactions and repetition. The previous step provided the emotion. This step provides the repetition.
  1. Continue until your new belief is rock solid. It’s easy to slip back into old patterns of thinking. Continue the process of visualizing your new belief in action and performing the 100 repetitions until your new belief is unshakeable.

As you can see, beliefs shape our results and future. If you’re dissatisfied with your life, begin by addressing your limiting beliefs. New beliefs are easy to install. Consider how easy it was to install your previously held beliefs without intention. The key is to find evidence for the new belief, surround the new belief with enthusiasm, and remind yourself daily.  Here are some tips I personally use that are extremely powerful.

Attitude of Gratitude– I use an app called 5 Minute Journal that helps direct my consciousness & subconscious toward all the good in my life, while living in a world that reports loudly on what’s bad.

Journaling – this has greatly impacted my learning about my desires, how I thought, my feelings & taking it all into account. I had mastered knowing what pleased others and not me. What did I want? Was I living a life that fulfilled or depleted my soul?

Affirmations – I looked myself in the mirror & finally saw me. Not the one I pretended to be in the world, but me. There I spoke life to that lady in the form of affirmations. I had to retrain my belief system from the bankrupt poverty focused one, the one society, friends, my job spoke over me, into the one God saw in me…one of Kingdom, possibility, potential, royalty, rulership & victory.
I am worthy
I am deserving of good
I will lead and not follow
I will create and not destroy
I defy the odds
I am a force for good
Everything I touch turns to gold
My dreams and goals are coming into reality, how they will get done, is none of my business, It’s God’s business
Now is my season
Now is my turn
I am the shift

Now you’re better equipped for succeed; knowing you deserve it, and will press forward until it’s reached. You’ve broken out!  To get even more crystal clear, Life Coaching is powerful.  Contact us for a complimentary strategy session with Angela.  Click Here before appoints are gone.

What’s Blocking My Success?

If you are not living the life daydreamed about, it’s probably attachments standing in your way. Every negative emotion is the result of one or more attachments. The simplicity of just letting go of them is the one way to free yourself and enjoy unlimited success.

Several attachments impede progress and success:

  1. The need to be comfortable is the greatest obstacle to success. It’s perfectly normal human nature to seek out comfort. There are few, if any, greater drives than the desire to be comfortable; yet success lies on the other side of comfort. Comfort comes from the familiar, but familiar never brings change.
  • Embrace discomfort. Honor the role of discomfort in your life to bring out the very things you hope for or desire.  Understand that your uncomfortable feelings mean you’re doing something new. New actions bring new results and the results might be exactly what you’re looking for.
  1. The need to be right is a close second. It’s human to be wrong about many things. However, if you feel the need to be correct, there’s no room for the truth. Instead of wanting to prove you are right, seek the truth. Spend time building a more accurate map of your world rather than trying to force your current map on reality. 
  2. Attachment to your identity is another obstacle. Do you see yourself as an ineloquent person? If so, you’ll never become a great orator. Do you believe you’re naturally a heavy person? A lean, healthy body will always be out of reach.
  •  It’s very challenging to create a reality that clashes with your identity. Why are you attached to your opinion of yourself? Let it go and see how great you can become. You have nothing to lose.
  1. Are you attached to your habits?  Life is the ultimate expression of our habits. Our lives get a little better or a little worse each day depending on the quality of the decision made. Over several years, your habits dictate the quality of your life. If you can’t give up your current habits, stuck exactly where one stands, one will remain.
  •  Many success experts believe that the development of new, effective habits is the cornerstone of success. Let go of old unbeneficial habits and make room for the new.
  • It might be necessary to develop habits like learning each day, networking, exercising, or reviewing your goals regularly to reach a new level of success.
  • Habits are another way we comfort ourselves. It’s uncomfortable to break old habits and to create new ones (let this feeling of being uncomfortable be a sign you are on the right track).
  1. Attachment to places and people can also limit success. Many of the best opportunities can be in other locations. Are you attached to your hometown, state, or even country? The world is a big place. The best opportunity for you might not be within 25 miles of your front door.  Can you imagine how different Oprah Winfrey’s life would have turned out if she would have stayed in that little town in Mississippi?  Would she have become the global icon she is today if not for removing herself from her land of familiar and what family knew best?
  • We often become attached to places because of the people there. It’s not easy to leave friends and family to attain success.
  • The people in our lives are also habits. Think of other successful people you know. Describe the people they spend time with on a regular basis. Compare that to the people in your social circle. Can you see a difference? Moving ahead often means letting go of certain people.

Attachment can be limiting. If success isn’t coming quickly enough, your attachments are part of the challenge. Examine your tendencies and determine which are impeding progress. Be willing to change and accept another viewpoint. Many attachments are pleasurable in the short-term, but painful in the long-term. Release them and enjoy greater unblocked success.